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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TEEN ABOUT SEEING A PSYCHOLOGIST

Talking to your teen about seeing a psychologist can feel delicate. Many parents and care givers worry about saying the wrong thing or creating resistance. The way the conversation is introduced makes a big difference, and small shifts in language can support openness, trust and engagement.

Here at Connected Minds Psychology, we work closely with teens and families, and we see every day how a thoughtful, respectful approach can make it much easier for young people to accept support.

PSYCHOLOGICALLY INFORMED TIPS FROM OUR TEAM:

Start with curiosity, not conclusions

Invite your teenager to share their experience rather than telling them what’s wrong.

“I’ve noticed you’ve seemed a bit quieter lately — how have things been feeling for you?”

This helps reduce defensiveness and builds emotional safety.

Normalise support

Frame psychology as support and skill-building, not something only for when things are “bad”.

“A psychologist helps people understand themselves and learn ways to cope — it’s not about being broken.”

We often describe therapy to young people as a space to build skills, feel understood, and make sense of what’s going on in their life.

Emphasise choice and autonomy

Teenagers engage more when they feel a sense of control.

“How would you feel about talking to someone outside the family?”

Reassure them they have a say in whether they go, who they see, and what they talk about.

Express care, not alarm

Share concern in a calm, supportive way.

“I care about you and want to make sure you have the support you deserve.”

This keeps the focus on connection rather than pressure.

Address common worries

Many teens worry about being judged, not knowing what to say, or confidentiality.

“It’s very much led by you, at your pace — and it’s a non-judgemental space.”

Our psychologists at Connected Minds are very mindful of these concerns and take time to help young people feel safe and respected from the very first session.

Keep it open

This doesn’t need to be a one-off conversation.

“You don’t need to decide now — we can keep talking about it.”

Remember to circle back to this conversation several times to help your teen get used to the idea.

More important than the perfect wording is warmth, respect and feeling listened to. When teens feel safe and not forced, they’re far more open to support. Suggesting support isn’t about fixing your teen - it’s about offering them space, understanding and tools during a complex stage of life.

If you would like support in finding the right psychologist for your teen, our team at Connected Minds Psychology in here to help.